Marriage Life!!

After listening to Pastor Kong Hee, founder of City Harvest in Singapore. I learn this useful tips about building up a good marriage life.
I think is super useful for me, eventhough Im not married yet. I feel that this is a basic knowledge that we should know.
Achieve fulfillment between husband & wife is the best way to sustain the marriage.
Here is five main fulfillment that a woman needs or a man needs from their spouse.

5 TOP FULFILLMENT WOMAN NEEDS FROM THEIR SPOUSE!!
#1 Affection
Womans need security & protection from her man

#2Conversation
According to Pastor Kong Hee, husbands must spent at least 15 hours/week to talk to his wife (with undivided attention). When womans din get to talk to her husband, she feels that her husband dont love her.

#3Honesty & oppeness
Family should faces problem together. When husband says that he is keeping it from his wife just because he dont want to get her wife worried, he is actually not honest to his wife. And when wife finds out one day, she will feels that her husband place her outside of his world.
Personally thinks that, when a husband and wife get to know each other better by hiding NO secret...their relationship is like building on a solid rock...

WHEN UR WOMAN IS GETTING FATTER, TELLS HER! SHE CAN ACCEPT IT, WOMAN IS MUCH STRONGER THAN U THINK!!

(ACT OF HONESTY)

#4Financial Support
Husbands, make a 3 main budget for your family:
1. Budget of what U need
2.Budget of what U want
3.Budget of what U afford (Luxury)

#5Family concentration
For husbands:
1.Spent lots of time with KIDS (15hourse/week)
2.Proper parenting skills

3.Make wise discipline (this one i not comfirm)
4.Explain the rules to KIDS
5.Learn to control UR anger

5 TOP FULFILLMENT MAN NEEDS FROM THEIR SPOUSE!!
#1 Sexual fulfillment (well, this is man's nature, God created them this way)
Problems is, many womans doesnt like this.

#2Recreational companionship
Mans needs their wife to spent time with them in doing things that they both have intrest in
FOr example, playing tennis together (just two of them, no children...)
again, 15hours/week with undivided attention

#3Attractive spouse
Wife, at least maintain how U look like before U married your husband...dont let Urself go
5 main things that WIFE should concern about
*Weight control
*Make Up
*Hair style
*Clothes
*COmestic surgery (when neccesary)
For instance, when a woman have body odour, she can consider to go for a sweat gland remover in order to make herself more attractive.
Or maybe a braces for woman who doesnt have a nice teeths.

#4Domestic support
MAN NEEDS PEACE AND QUIET
Or else, man will be spending more time at outside(or a place where he can find peace) instead of their home. Well affair easily starts from here
According to Pastor Kong Hee, mans fancy home is like this

When a man came back from home, his wife will be standing at the door and welcoming him back, as he step in the door, he see his children sitting on the table reading books (studying) and says "Hello Daddy!!". As he sat down on the sofa, their wife will brings them a pair of slippers to change with a cup of tea for him to relax. After that, wife would say this "Dear, why dont you go and get a shower? And I will prepare the dinner". During his shower, smells from the delicious food that his wife make comes from the kitchen. Right after fininshing his shower, he will see his children sitting on the dining table waiting for him to start their dinner and says this "Daddy! Come and eat." And in their dinner, mans wish they could spent time talking and laughing (without any complaints). Then, a man also want their children to leave him & his wife alone and get to bed after dinner.During this time, both of them will spent time watching Tv.Lastly, men will most probably end their night by carrying their wife into their bedroom (U know what is next)
In order to make a fair division of work between husband and wife is
1st Make a list of every work (from taking care of kids to work outside)
2nd Fair division
3rd Do things that increase Ur love bank
Iron Ur husband cloths with LOVE

#5 Admiration
Always admire Ur husband (admiration that comes from heart & honest)

Thats about it.....hope you learn something from it. =D